21 Home-made Recipes to be Happy

Are people in 2021 braver as they are outspoken about their mental health or millennials-&-Gen-Z are snowflakes?

What’s evident is that tons of us don’t know how to take shit that life throws at us anymore. We are too narcissistic to understand that the world doesn’t revolve around us & not everything happens as per our whims & wishes — dreams & desires. And that we’re not the centre of the universe. 

We can’t handle a break-up {oh, my boyfriend left me. sob.sob.icecream.sob.sob.wine.sob.sob}. We can’t accept rejection from the universities or a job interview. We want to win it all or “Life sucks ass, babe.”

We can’t live without a smartphone for a day. We can’t live without Wifi for an hour. 

People don’t like to be told that they’re weak. They rather hear — “It’s not your fault, love.” Circumstances are to blame. Genetics are to blame. Girlfriend is to blame. Trump is to blame.

I’m not a doctor. I’m a human with experiences running into almost 4 decades. There are a few things I do in life that keep me sane, give me peace, & make me look ahead to the next day with the excitement reminiscent of a child on a sugar rush.

Here are my humble homemade recipes that work for me.

1. Money: Don’t make your Happiness dependent on Material Things. It’s one of the primary reasons, I never feel unhappy.
Full Disclosure: A recent life event has made me sad. But it’s alright to be sad when it originates from true love. Paradoxically, I have drawn strength from my sadness & become more resolute & driven.

2. Failure: Learn to ‘Expect & Accept’ Failure & channel it to become better. Watch Michael Jordon’s documentary — The Last Dance [Netflix]. It will blow your mind & depression away.

3. Validation: If you’re not confident within, you will continually look for external validation. It’s always a slippery slope to make your happiness dependent on what someone else thinks.

4. Forgive: Learn to Forgive yourself. Be Hard on yourself. Really Hard, but if you fail or don’t succeed after giving your best, don’t beat yourself up. Give it another shot or do something else that you love or like.

5. Loss: Learn to accept the loss of a loved one. It’s not easy but nothing that’s worth something is ever easy.

6. Grudges: People will let you down. That’s the way it is. Learn to not take everything personally & understand that people fuck up, but most of the time, it doesn’t define them. Just the way there are no heroes, just heroic acts, similarly there are no terrible people, just terrible acts.

7. Uncomfortable: Don’t find easy ways to do things. Don’t Order in. Get off your Ass & Take a walk to the Restaurant. And Eat there.
Remember: Comfort zone will slowly & surely kill You. Fuck Uber, take the Bus. Fuck Zomato, Cook. Fuck Maid [not literally], wash utensils yourself. It will make you independent. And independence will liberate you.

8. Purpose: Find a fucking Purpose - Instead of trying to find your Happiness at Northern Lights or Amsterdam, try to find your happiness in giving Love & Time to people who aren’t as fortunate as you’re & doing something that makes you come alive.

9. Relationships: Pull the Plug on toxic Relationships — Break up with that bitch/basterd :)

10. Big Cities: Quit the Big Cities. Everyone is Angry in the Cities - I’ve seen people fighting with the Trees & ATMs. It’s madness in the cities. Go Away & Live in Small - more tree-friendly places if you can.

11. Battles: Choose Your Battles [Greatest Life Lesson Ever] - I hate it when I see people littering, corruption, plastic waste, unreasonable people, but I can’t change who people are. Accept the flaws all around you. Change yourself & hope people follow your example. 

12. Love: Do what you love? I write because I love it. I’ve literally made zero money from writing & I’ve been writing since 2006. 15 years & zero money, but I will do it for another 50 years & more because I love writing. 

13. Nice: Don’t be a ‘Nice Person’ all the Time. It takes a toll — Let it out sometime. Get Angry. Break a Remote. Smash a Window. Do it. It will feel good. And bleed a little :)

P.S. Bottling up your emotions never works in the long-run.

14. Friends: Make Real Friends [Invest Time, Effort & Thought] - Create True, Solid Relationships. Fuck around if you want to - no problem with that, but if all you’re doing is Fucking Around & not showing up for your Family, Friends, then guess what, when you need them, they won’t show up either. 

15. Exercise: Run or exercise or dance regularly - do hot yoga. No one ever felt depressed after a run or dance. It’s like drugs - the best drugs ever.

 

P.S. Don’t take breaks like you don’t take breaks from eating or brushing teeth. Make exercise a lifestyle.

 

16. Sleep: Get your 7-9 hours of peaceful & timely sleep every night. It will make every morning beautiful.

17. Humans: Stay Away from Negative Humans & if you are negative, work towards fixing yourself - Keep at it till you Fix yourself absolutely.

18. Discipline: I know it’s boring & annoying. It also makes you create more everyday.
Tip: If you can find things you like/love to do & be disciplined about them, then discipline won’t feel super boring anymore.

19. Make Love: You gotta “do it” — when you have good sex, a ridiculously large amount of oxytocin, which lowers stress & enhances bonding, is released.
P.S. If you are 15, you might wanna wait a little bit before making love — talking to friends, listening to music, meditation & dance are also amazing oxytocin creators. 

20. Bond: An intimate & emotionally-evolved relationship works like magic. I’ve had three true relationships. Everything that’s good about me is owed to those indelible relationships.

21. Therapy: Go for it right away if you’re suffering from clinical depression. Don’t hesitate or it may be too late.

Remember - It’s not weak to accept that you’re weak. We are all fucking weak in some way or the other. But we can be better & happier — because when we are happier, the world is happier.